This is a bit of a controversial topic I guess. Depends who you talk to but I’ll give you my honest answer.
Do your actions match your words?
In an ideal world I would love to say yes. But in reality, not 100% of the time. It all depends on what mood you catch me in, who I’m speaking to and how I feel about that person. 99% of the time I will always stand by what I’ve said. I have been brought up in a way to be honest and stand by my own opinions with pride.
Let’s talk about difficult situations. For example when someone breaks me, argues with me or let’s me down, I’m inclined to defend myself. Heated words are not ones I would count myself to match my actions. I am a very docile person when it comes to confrontation and I will always rather explain myself then fight the fight. When I’m in a situation where I’m being depended on, I will always try and stand by what I’ve said, but in a way I can also be brutal. I am not one to sugarcoat and I will always tell someone straight exactly how I’m feeling or when it comes to advice I’m straight and narrow instead of beating around the bush.
I fall hard and I become attached. It’s all part of my mental health and I have come a long way in realising that that isn’t going to change. It can be quite intense for others but it’s nothing bad it’s just pure passion when it comes to who I hold close to my heart.
So in conclusion I’m going to answer this as no. Because it’s not as simple as black and white. As much as I fight myself to believe that there is a grey area in situations, I’d rather not lie to myself and others in the process and hurt people along the way. I honestly believe in a situation of trust that actions should always match your words. But in the heat of the moment I believe it’s what people do to amend is more important.